Jul 25, 2016 1:14 PM
'If you continue to do what you've always done. You will keep getting what you've always got' Zig Ziglar
If you've just graduated this summer firstly congratulations! What an amazing achievement and what a great opportunity for you to get the life you really want. You're in a unique position to take stock of what you want from life, decide where you want to be, and what you need to get there.
It amazes me how many people fail to invest in themselves even though our life and our future is the most precious commodity we have. For those of us who are parents we see our children as the most precious of things but without investment in ourselves, our children will repeat our mistakes, take on our self-limiting beliefs and may not reach their true potential. An investment in ourselves is an investment that will add value and improve not only our lives but those of our family and those most precious to us.
If you are a newly qualified Graduate, you may not yet know what you want to do, and why should you? Some individuals may have a clear idea or goal of what they want from life but most often, they are the minority, the majority struggle to be clear in their thinking, they question their decisions and procrastinate for a number of different reasons. Thus begins a cycle of self-limiting thoughts and behaviours that prevent you from reaching our true potential and achieving the life we really want.
Get ahead of the game. Coaching can help you discover who you are, what you’re good at, where you want to be in your life, and how to get there. It will give you the confidence, self-belief and life skills that will differentiate you from the rest and give you a head start in life.
A few tips for success
- Everyone has the power to change things in an instant.
- All the resources we need to achieve what we want are within us.
- For changes to be of any value, they have to be lasting and consistent.
- Raise your standards
- Change your limiting beliefs
- Change your strategy
- Remember almost everything we do is to change the way we feel.
- Most often we do not look at ourselves as the solution to our challenges.
- We turn to short-term fixes that are often outside our control and use them as an excuse if we fail.
Can you truly say that you wake up each day in a positive frame of mind, that you take time to reflect and appreciate the good things? How often do you use lack of time as an excuse to not do something? This is not about just time management, it’s about making decisions that will lead you towards your goal. Life coaching helps you to be confident in your decisions and look beyond short term gratification. Often people allow their decisions to be dictated by their environment/circumstances instead by their own values.
1. Life coaching helps with decisions about WHAT to focus on.
2. It helps with understanding what things mean to you and HOW IMPORTANT they are to you.
3. You learn what decisions you need to make and how to do it to create the RESULT you want.
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May 23, 2016 1:32 PM
'In order to carry out a positive action we must develop here a positive vision' (Dalai Lama)
When we want to make changes to our lives, adopting a positive mental attitude is a key strategy that we can adopt to change our behaviour and meet our individual goals. We may consider ourselves as being positive people but how often are we truly aware that our behaviour and even gestures subconsciously reflect our thinking? Hunching shoulders, crossing arms or not keeping eye contact are all signs that we may not have a complete positive mental attitude.
Sometimes we might inadvertently think or speak negatively about something because we are not mindful of the language we use and the effects this can have on our thoughts. e.g. 'I had better not have that toast' can make us feel guilty and that it is wrong if we want to lose weight. Why might we want to lose weight? Because we are fat - but why do we want to lose weight? Because we are fat we might say again. So why do we want to lose weight we might ask ourselves again? Because we are fat and it makes us feel unhappy, or sad, or ugly we answer. Ultimately, losing weight is only a means to an end. What we really want is to feel better about ourselves. By reminding ourselves that we are trying to lose weight through negative messaging in the way we speak or think just reinforces self-limiting beliefs about ourselves.
Rather than saying 'I'd better not have that toast' we can replace our thoughts and words by saying 'I'm having a healthy breakfast today' We don't need to remind ourselves why we are not doing certain things but we would benefit from reminding ourselves why we are doing certain things i.e. I'm a healthy person.
If we constantly have negativity in our lives through thoughts and other communication we could find ourselves not having sufficient self-belief to achieve our goals. By being mindful of our thoughts and words, we can bring more positivity to our lives and this will filter across to our behaviour and attitude in everything we do.
Six characteristics of a solid mental attitude are reflected in Ken Ward's paper 'Mind Changing Techniques to Keep the Change'. These simple strategies are a good foundation for having a positive mental attitude and help to achieve our goals successfully whatever they might be.
1) Know what you want.
We need to be clear in our goals and what we want to achieve. If we are unclear about exactly what we want then we won't know when we find it. The key is being able to define our goals and being mindful of opportunities that may present themselves and lead us to our goal. Sometimes our minds can be closed to triggers, opportunities or people that can help us to achieve our goals. If we know what we want we can look and be more aware of things that might draw us nearer.
2) Let everyone know what you want.
If we tell others what we want to achieve, the goal becomes a reality and not something that sits in our head like a dream. By communicating what we want to others it reinforces and strengthens our mindset as well as drawing information, people and links to help us.
3) Persist, but not for long.
It's important to be realistic in our expectations and to allow time for things to develop as well as accepting that set-backs will occur. This is not about failure but is more about learning and growing from our experiences.
4) Be a life-long learner
Always remember that our journey to personal development and happiness is on-going.
5) Trust your intuition
Some people are not finely tuned to their own internal senses. They don't recognise internal mechanisms and feelings or signs that alert us as to how we should act. The more we pay attention to these 'feelings' the better we become at seizing opportunities or deciding on a different path. Emotional intelligence is within everybody in varying degrees but it is possible to learn this by listening to internal messages that will help guide us.
6) Believe you will succeed!
High achievers and successful people have a common belief that they will succeed. This success is not something that happens overnight or a short space of time for the majority of people. It comes with hard work, perseverence and a fundamental belief that success will come eventually. This may present itself with small successes to begin with which we may not recognise so it is important to pay attention to these successes and acknowledge them when they occur.
(c) Cheryl Hooper Oxford Life Coaching